My mom doesnt feel like Im good enough for her?

Posted on 13. Jul, 2011 by Toy Expert.

Okay so to make a long story short my mom is always complementing everyone. Except for me. And it really is starting to take a toll on my self esteem! for instance I just got in to the Laguna playhouse conversatory and its a pretty challenging audition to make. They book auditions every five minutes and it was a two day audition including an interview. When I got a callback all she said was "Its not for sure you probably wont get in" and then once I did get in she didnt even congratulate. Then I have a dance recital at Pacific coast academy of dance and all she did was brag about the other people’s children. She even said she wanted to stay after the intermission to watch the people who were REALLY talented at dancing. THEN when I sang in the school talent show she all she did was talk about this one parent’s child and wouldnt stop talking about how good she was. We were watching Americas got talent and this one kid came on and she sang great and my mom was like WOOW SHE IS GREAT! But my dad said she was OK and summer (me) is better. My mom snorted and laughed like he was kidding and then she said "Oh, your serious?" It really hurts I am so glad I have my dad. Here is an example of my singing: http://www.youtube.com/user/supersummer17

Thank you for listening it was long please answer though!

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My mom is always bringing my down?

Posted on 11. Jul, 2011 by Toy Expert.

Okay so to make a long story short my mom is always complementing everyone. Except for me. And it really is starting to take a toll on my self esteem! for instance I just got in to the Laguna playhouse conversatory and its a pretty challenging audition to make. They book auditions every five minutes and it was a two day audition including an interview. When I got a callback all she said was "Its not for sure you probably wont get in" and then once I did get in she didnt even congratulate. Then I have a dance recital at Pacific coast academy of dance and all she did was brag about the other people’s children. She even said she wanted to stay after the intermission to watch the people who were REALLY talented at dancing. THEN when I sang in the school talent show she all she did was talk about this one parent’s child and wouldnt stop talking about how good she was. We were watching Americas got talent and this one kid came on and she sang great and my mom was like WOOW SHE IS GREAT! But my dad said she was OK and summer (me) is better. My mom snorted and laughed like he was kidding and then she said "Oh, your serious?" It really hurts I am so glad I have my dad. Here is an example of my singing: http://www.youtube.com/user/supersummer17

Thank you for listening it was long please answer though!

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over-hearing another (stranger) parent criticize your child?

Posted on 05. Jul, 2011 by Toy Expert.

I was at this mini-amusement park with my daughter who’s 2 since July. we went with my mom. she has been in the "mine" phase and lately has started saying ‘go away" a lot. i encourage her not to say it by acting like it hurts my feelings when she says it to me, but that hasn’t worked. I know it’s not a good thing to say to other ppl but she’s two. anyway there was this playhouse there and this little boy about 14 mons or so was in it. b/c it’s a public place, i’m not going to tell her that he was there first. she told him to go away and said "mine" and i said ‘no, you have to share". Then a few moments later she started saying go away again and i noticed he kept grabbing her in a nice, hugging way but she was saying it to get her space. I said to my mom, "oh, it’s bc he’s touching her". I then heard the father to the boy’s mom say "that girl has bad manners." I knew they were talking about my daughter. Then she said a little after, "when the other people leave, we’ll take a picture of him there."
I wanted to say so many things like ‘well you have bad manners for saying that in front of us’ or ‘your son has bad manners for touching her repeatedly’ or "she’s TWO" but i didnt say anything at all.
My question is; isnt it kind of rude? but perhaps truth to it? and also, when the mom said about taking the picture was it a hint for us to leave/ But she didnt say it real loud. i am just wondering why she would expect us to leave first. Did she expect me to move my daughter from there bc she kept saying go away? and so she expected to be able to take a picture?
lol Peach that is exactly what happened…they ended up having to go follow their other older girl child and they didnt get a picture…ha-ha.
chesire cat; actually i wasnt upset that he was touching her…i udnerstand that he was a baby and jsut exploring…jsut like my daughter is…I said it bc i was clarifying out loud that the ‘go away" was actually for a valid reason this time—she was getting her space invaded, so i wasn’t going to correct her for standing up for herself, even to a little baby. (she wasnt so much bigger than he)

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My four year old bit another child!?

Posted on 27. Jun, 2011 by Toy Expert.

At daycare my four year old took an 18 month old by the hand, walked her behind a playhouse to hide and bit her arm so badly it left purple bruises! This is the first time anything has ever happened like this. Later that evening, she was found hitting the same girl on the head with a toy! I would like to add that she told me that she hit the little girl because she was mad that she got in trouble for biting. A few months ago she was bit by a neighbors dog and needed stitches, so could that be related? I am not sure how to address this issue, but there is urgency in my discipline as taking too long separates the action from the reaction. I don’t want to bite her back, but could having her bite herself be an option so she can understand the pain she caused, rather than the fear of getting in trouble with mom?

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Animated short about a penguin that goes on an adventure?

Posted on 25. Jun, 2011 by Toy Expert.

When I was little I would watch a short about a little penguin that would go on adventures during the day and then come back home at night to his mom. They were pretty much the only two characters in the short. I believe this was on Playhouse Disney or some other children’s network. This was back in the late 90s or the early 2000s.
nevermind. it was only partly a cartoon. it was called paz.
nevermind. it was only partly a cartoon. it was called paz.

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What do you think of this family who are raising their kids with NO GENDER?

Posted on 21. May, 2011 by Toy Expert.

I have these neighbors who are good friends of mine, they have 3 sons and they say they’re raising them without a gender. They dont treat them as males they treat them as peoples who are individuals.

They have always allowed the kids to pick their own toys, pick what activities/sports they like to do,and what color clothes and stuff, basically they never tell them stuff like trucks are for boys and dolls are for girls cause they think that’s wrong and say they want the kids to no limitations on what things they can enjoy and dont want them getting affected by stereotypes or told they cant do something cause its not for boys

They’re letting them be completely who they want to be.The oldest one is into soccer but he also owns the huge purple plastic playhouse on their lawn, and the middle one is boyish too but very into his fashion and they even let him wear a suit and tie to kindergarten before,the youngest one has long feminine blonde hair and wears mainly pink shirts and is always holding a plush lemon colored cuddly bear.The parents get a bit annoyed if people ask if theyre going to try for a girl cause they think people should be happy with whatever child they get.

The family arent hippies or anything like that,they’re actually pretty traditional,the mom is a stay at home mother and the dad is the breadwinner but what I admire about it is that he really respects his wife a lot and they always look so happy and the kids are so kind and well mannered and always smiling too so I guess their ideals must be working for them.

I actually think its a good idea how they raise them.

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What do you think of this family who are raising their kids with NO GENDER?

Posted on 19. May, 2011 by Toy Expert.

I have these neighbors who are good friends of mine, they have 3 sons and they say they’re raising them without a gender. They dont treat them as males they treat them as peoples who are individuals.

They have always allowed the kids to pick their own toys, pick what activities/sports they like to do,and what color clothes and stuff, basically they never tell them stuff like trucks are for boys and dolls are for girls cause they think that’s wrong and say they want the kids to no limitations on what things they can enjoy and dont want them getting affected by stereotypes or told they cant do something cause its not for boys

They’re letting them be completely who they want to be.The oldest one is into soccer but he also owns the huge purple plastic playhouse on their lawn, and the middle one is boyish too but very into his fashion and they even let him wear a suit and tie to kindergarten before,the youngest one has long feminine blonde hair and wears mainly pink shirts and is always holding a plush lemon colored cuddly bear.The parents get a bit annoyed if people ask if theyre going to try for a girl cause they think people should be happy with whatever child they get.

The family arent hippies or anything like that,they’re actually pretty traditional,the mom is a stay at home mother and the dad is the breadwinner but what I admire about it is that he really respects his wife a lot and they always look so happy and the kids are so kind and well mannered and always smiling too so I guess their ideals must be working for them.

I actually think its a good idea how they raise them.

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Please help me interpret my dream?? Professionals please help.?

Posted on 05. May, 2011 by Toy Expert.

I keep dreaming about me drowning or a loved one drowning.

But here is the dream. I know what most of the drowning part means but I don’t understand the rest.

Okay so I went to the waterpark with my little (3-4) year old cousin and my 7-9 year old cousin and we we’re playing in the water having fun and I see my ex-boyfriend is there and he sees me playing with the little child and tries to get my attention throwing things towards me and i see him but i swim away because i don’t want to see him and me and my little cousins go into a house they have set up in the water thats half in the water, half out, and we’re playing and i hear my name get called so i go outside and my ex-boyfriend starts talking to me and arguing kind of and telling me i ignored him and then when i go back in the water playhouse to check on my baby cousin, she is drowned. Dead and i couldn’t bring her back to life. She eventually turned into pages and i was trying to save her but i couldn’t and i was panicing and getting blamed for it by my mom and brother..and i was so mad cause i felt like it was all my ex-boyfriends fault for distracting me.

and like lastnight and earlier in my nap i had a dream i was caught in peoples legs, the pool was crowded and i couldn’t get out to the top to breathe and i can’t remember if i died but i know i was so very close.

A note: I am going through some very hard times lately and feeling sad so i don’t know.

I woke up and thought the dream was real and my baby cousin had died.

Please help me interpret my dream in detail?
Thank you so much.

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What do you think of this family who are raising their kids with NO GENDER?

Posted on 12. Apr, 2011 by Toy Expert.

I have these neighbors who are good friends of mine, they have 3 sons and they say they’re raising them without a gender. They dont treat them as males they treat them as peoples who are individuals.

They have always allowed the kids to pick their own toys, pick what activities/sports they like to do,and what color clothes and stuff, basically they never tell them stuff like "trucks are for boys and dolls are for girls" cause they think that’s wrong and say they want the kids to no limitations on what things they can enjoy and dont want them getting affected by stereotypes or told they cant do something cause its "not for boys"

They’re letting them be completely who they want to be.The oldest one is into soccer but he also owns the huge purple plastic playhouse on their lawn, and the middle one is "boyish" too but very into his fashion and they even let him wear a suit and tie to kindergarten before,the youngest one has long feminine blonde hair and wears mainly pink shirts and is always holding a plush lemon colored cuddly bear.The parents get a bit annoyed if people ask if theyre going to try for a girl cause they think people should be happy with whatever child they get.

The family arent hippies or anything like that,they’re actually pretty traditional,the mom is a stay at home mother and the dad is the breadwinner but what I admire about it is that he really respects his wife a lot and they always look so happy and the kids are so kind and well mannered and always smiling too so I guess their ideals must be working for them.

I actually think its a good idea how they raise them.

I doubt their being bullied cause my wife was an EA at their school and she used to tell their mom how popular they are with the other kids and how well behaved and polite they were, so no they arent getting bullied for it
To all the people saying its wrong cause they’ll get bullied, you are wrong cause the kids arent being bullied
But they are NOT stopping them from doing "Boyish things", thats the thing, they like both "girlish and boyish" things, they arent being forced to be feminine at all. I think it just proves that a child will flock towards whatever makes them happy and that yes, like others said, gender is taught.

And boys pretend toys are guns cause of our society, our advertizing, etc, I lived in asia for 4 years and never seen a boy behave that way. Its our culture that influences such things.

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Why do I like little kids so much? I'm not a pervert!?

Posted on 24. Mar, 2011 by Toy Expert.

When I was little I had a playhouse and often played with dolls and barbies and such. At age 10, I received an American Girl doll that I treasured and kept good care of. Sometime after 12, I put her carefully in the attic because I was embarrassed of being that old and still having a doll. When I was in 6th grade, a friend of mine’s mother had a baby girl. My mom and I went over to visit and my mom gave her some helpful advice. At the time, when I was 11, I was polite about the baby but barely interested in her. However, around the age of 12 (a little before or a little after) I came to love babies and toddlers/little kids immensely. By the time my friends mother had a second child (about a year and a half younger than the first) I loved the first girl and could spend endless amounts of time with her, playing and such. And the baby was so cute too! Sometimes when she is crying, I distract her and make her stop. I love being around babies and babysitting. My friend sometimes gets annoyed because I like her siblings so much. I control myself and make sure to keep my attention on my friend. But sometimes it’s hard. Being around babies and toddlers makes me feel very happy, even though I know they can be a lot of work. I’d like to have 4 kids (actually, I’d like a lot of children, but 4 seems like a good amount). A family friend of mine is having a baby and I am SUPER excited, looking up pregnancy facts and reading Parenting magazines that my mom had. I sometimes day dream about the children I will one day have, even though I’m only 14 and don’t even have a boyfriend! I don’t plan on becoming pregnant until I’m married, and I don’t want my first child until I’m at least 25 or 26, but probably not until 27 or 28. I would like to run a daycare for toddlers and babies when I’m older, but my parents say that you don’t get any insurance or anything the one time I brought it up. I thought parents were supposed to encourage you to follow your dreams?? My sister is a bipolar 16 year old who has unprotected sex regularly. Several times she has had pregnancy scares, but she’s never been pregnant. Although I don’t believe my sister should ever have a child, the idea of being a aunt brings me great joy. What’s wrong with me?? I’m not some pervert who wants to touch the kids in inappropriate ways, I just love being around children.
I meant to say "I’m not a pervert!" Not "I’m not a pervert!?"

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